When I sat down to write this blog post, I was going to tell you all about how and why I started pole dancing. Then I realized "Eh that’s not important." Long story short I started because I was looking for a fun way to work out, lose some extra weight, and bounce back after a breakup. But I am not going to go into details about all of that. Today I am going to focus on one of the important things I got from pole dancing, which is confidence.
I didn't realize I needed confidence until I didn't have it anymore. Funny how that works huh? When I started pole dancing I was overweight, felt stuck at my job, and single for the first time in a very long time. Any kind of confidence I had was shot and long gone at this point. When I agreed to a pole dance class, I didn't realize how much it would affect me. I thought "Cool. New form of dance to learn. Strippers seem to have great upper body strength. And hey shaking my butt is always fun. I'll give it a go." Confidence was the furthest thing from my mind.
When I attended my first class, I was the tallest, heaviest, and only African American woman in the room. I was super self-conscious about myself. I didn't think I would go back but learning that first spin was too much fun. I was like "Yay! I did something and I smiled!" I was already feeling better about myself and gained enough confidence to go back. It snuck up on me and I didn't even know what was happening but I realized a very important fact of life
Confidence matters when you have an interview for that job you really want.
Confidence matters when you see a cute guy on social media and you "shoot your shot" (I think that's what the kids say)
Confidence matters when you land a date with that cute guy and you want to show him how awesome you are.
Confidence matters when you have ten bags of groceries to bring in and you KNOW you can do it in one trip.
Confidence matters when you have that big presentation at work or you have an important meeting with your boss.
Confidence matters when you try on new clothes in those awful dressing room mirrors (I know I am not the only one who always looks fat in them)
Confidence matters when you get naked for your partner and you think "I am going to steal his or her soul" (I think the kids say that too)
Confidence matters for whatever moment comes up in life when you have to believe in yourself.
Now what happened to me after I started taking pole dance classes? When life situations come up and I feel like I need a pep talk I say to myself "I can swing on a pole so I know I can do anything."
Make sure you find whatever gives you confidence and you hold on to it forever. I am never letting go of pole dancing.